It's my world

Well, i have received some suggestions from some friends to feature any article or anything on the issue of jealousy. As we all know, jealousy is part of our life. Like a Malay proverb that says, "cemburu tandanya sayang" or jealous is a sign of love. So, is it true? What about jealousy without any reasons or directly translated from Malay "blind jealousy"..:) cemburu buta dah..I bet all of us have experienced this kind of feeling before. So, in this article taken from the internet, i would like to share some tips on how to handle jealousy in our life..

1. Understand the emotions. Jealousy is a combination of fear and anger: fear of losing something and anger that someone is "moving in on" something that you feel belongs only to you.
Fahami emosi anda. Selalunya kita ni akan cepat berasa marah atau takut untuk kehilangan sesuatu atau seseorang. So, control la emosi tu kalaupun anda tahu yang anda tidak menang sesuatu pertandingan ke atau awek tak mau melekat dengan anda..bukan rezeki la tu..

2. Allow yourself to actually 'feel' emotions in a healthy way. When you start feeling jealous, ask yourself: Is it more fear-based or more anger-based? Recognize which part of your body is being affected. If you feel a dropping or clutching sensation in your stomach, it’s probably fear. If you feel a burning, tight sensation in your shoulders and jaw, then you’re likely feeling anger. You might also feel a combination of those sensations.
Perassan cemburu ni juga turut memberi kesan fizikal seperti senak perut atau tiba2 rasa badan menjadi sengal..jadi, untuk mengelak daripada gejala2 ni, kurang2 kanlah cemburu tu..

3. Communicate your feelings. Sharing your true feelings with someone without blaming them can create a deep sense of connection between the two of you and open up a dialogue about the path of your relationship. Use "I" instead of "you." Instead of saying, "You shouldn't have done that," say, "I felt terrible when that happened."
Jangan mudah menyalahkan orang lain sekiranya berlaku sebarang masalah tentang perhubungan anda. Kalau kawan anda mendapat gred yang baik atau mendapat kenaikan pangkat, mungkin anda bertanya diri anda sendiri, apa sebenarnya kekurangan anda...

4. Identify what your jealousy is teaching you. Jealousy can alert you to what you want and what is important to you. If you’re jealous of someone talking to a friend of yours, personal relationships may be important to you. If you’re jealous about money, you may have an underlying need for security or freedom. Ask yourself, "Why am I jealous over this? What is making me jealous? What am I trying to keep? Why do I feel threatened?" When you begin to understand what makes you jealous, you can begin to take positive steps to maintain those things, without the cloud of negative emotion that accompanies jealousy.
Cemburu tu pasti ada sebabnya, jadi carilah sebab yang munasabah apa sebenarnya yang membuat anda cemburu..ini akan menjadikan anda lebih bersikap positif dan optimis terhadap kehidupan anda..

5. Change any false beliefs that might cause jealousy. There are often false beliefs that underlie jealousy and fuel emotion. If you examine the belief, you can often eliminate the jealousy. Some common underlying beliefs are “Everyone is out to get my money” or “If this person leaves me, I won't have any friends.” Beliefs are changeable. If you change your belief, you change the way you feel. Choose to tell yourself a belief that is nurturing and supportive, and you’ll feel better. When you begin taking steps to creating a happy and fulfilling life for yourself, you will find the anger, the jealousy, and the fear will disappear. Don't listen to people who make you jealous.
Tukar kepercayaan anda terhadap sesuatu juga boleh membantu anda mengurangkan perasaan cemburu. Contohnya, jangan asyik berfikir yang kiranya kekasih anda meninggalkan anda, anda akan merana dan tidak akan dapat pengganti yang lain..buang perasaan tu..tanamkan keyakinan yang Tuhan tu maha adil dan setiap sesuatu tu pasti ada hikmah yang menanti..

So, i hope these tips can help you and i to become a better partner, better son/daughter and most importantly, a better person.